Traveling home from a week's ski trip last week, LDR and I were listening to a K.T. Oslin CD, one of my favorites. The opening song is Live Close By, Visit Often. Oh, how I've enjoyed that song over the years; in fact, I found these lyrics and sent them to a good friend of mine a few years ago when she had fallen in love (at first sight) and her new-found love reciprocated. It worked! Such good advice from K.T.
But this time, listening to the CD (for what else can you do but listen when you're a captive audience in the car), I noted that all the songs were about relationships, but the reaction to the relationships were more or less Que Sera Sera (what will be, will be). There was a noticeable absence of "oh, my gosh, we broke up," or "oh, my gosh, my heart is broken." And I thought: Maybe that's the secret to having happy relationships. Enjoy them while they're there; enjoy the moment. When it's over, remember those relationships, but don't try to recreate them as they were. The relationship changes us as we live through it; we can never recreate it because we are now different people than we were when we started.
I have a theory that we need to let others be as they are, and then learn to love, respect, and appreciate them under their terms - or not!
What does it take to do that? I'm really not sure. But it might be a good pondering.
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